Hello!
How was your holiday season?
Today we're looking at something that might be tricky—allowing our kids to 'help us out.' What can they possibly help out with? Staying out of the way, maybe? Becoming more invisible?
As a mom, I understand wanting our kids out of the way when we have lots of chores to do. It just makes things easier and faster, with less chaos and confusion.
But again, as a mom, I've been learning the importance of involving these little ones sometimes. It indirectly starts teaching them to be able to do some of these things, and it also makes them feel seen. As adults, many of our 'I just want them out of the way' can eventually make them feel like they are invisible or a burden. I know it's not a conscious and deliberate thing. But it still happens.
It's completely accurate that you don't have time to play a game or watch a movie with them today because your to-do list is filled with endless chores. But what if you still made chore time family time? Everyone can pitch in and do something, even something little. I know they can only do some things you need to get done (especially if they are still very young). But is there anything else they could help with?
Giving your children responsibilities from time to time can also help build their confidence. It can help them believe in their ability to contribute to group tasks and encourage them to pitch in whenever their efforts are needed.
It's very tempting because it's easier to clear them out of the way so you can get things done as quickly as possible It might be more challenging having to get chores done and STILL supervise your little assistants as they complete their tasks. But at the end of the day, and in the long run, it may be worth it.
